#WritersLife – Who likes to be criticized? 24

Help! I’m terrified!

Hello my beloved fellow reading, writing and blogging beasts, [and all other beast of this beastiverse],

So I have these karma points in Scribophile, which I can use to post a work for critique [up to 3000 words]…


Do you see that that bundle of fluttering wings, curled in the corner, trembling?

That’s terrified MOI! 😩

So, today I’m just going to share my chaotic, terrified thoughts with you, hoping you can help me.

[Or at least walk to the corner and slap me like the do in movies to hysterical people] 😬

  • Have you submitted your work to be criticized?
  • Where? How did it go???
  • How on earth did you gather the courage to do it? 😳
  • What if my very fragile writing beast’s ego doesn’t survive the experience and I never want to write again??? 😫
  • Is this hyper-dramatic post a sign that I’m not ready for this? Is there a way to know when you are ready? 🤔
  • So let’s say I do it… How do I make this horrifying experience less traumatic? [in a way that doesn’t involve Xanax 😁]
  • Should I go for the throat and I post a excerpt of my WIP???? My little baby that I have been cradling for more than three years now??? 😳 Pros… I to see what people think of my story and my writing. Cons… SPOILERS and… What if I get so demotivated that I don’t want to finish my WIP??? 😩
  • Should I instead post something else like…
    • A short story [which I would have to write] just to see how I react to the critiques or…
    • Should I post a draft post from my blog?? [bloggers post their drafts in Scribophile for critique]. What if never want to blog again after the feedback???

If you want to learn more about Scribophile, read Julia Satu‘s post “How Scribophile can help your manuscript“. I found it very helpful. I asked Julia and she said… “Just go for the WIP! Everyone is very nice on the site. You cannot lose.”

Thank you for visiting and for all your comments! And for slapping me if you did! 🙂


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24 thoughts on “#WritersLife – Who likes to be criticized?

  • Kristen @ Metaphors and Moonlight

    Oh gosh, posting your work for criticism does sound terrifying. Well, do you have to use these points within a certain time frame? Maybe it’d be better to wait until you’ve done some editing or something since a rough draft obviously isn’t going to be your best, and therefore the critique might not be as helpful. But I’ve never done this, so I don’t actually know what I’m talking about lol.

  • La La in the Library

    Gosh, weeeeeeeheeew… I have no idea what to tell you. I guess my skin is toughened by my Creative Writing teacher’s slashing and bashing of my stories. Ha, but you know what? My Written Expression professor loved my stuff, so go figure. That is why you have to pull out what you need from a critique and let the rest fall away. It is like when we read a book, beyond writing skill, I might like a certain style more than you, and vice versa, and I think that is how critiques are, too. The only place besides having my son read my writing has been Wattpad, and a published author who read it said to watch out for being too descriptive, and a nonpublished writer said I wasn’t descriptive enough. So there you have it. Ha! Would the person critiquing be a published author?

    • Dragonfly @ Our Familiarium

      hahaha this is tough one right? 🙂 You are where I want to be! an post-apocalyptic-critique thick skinned beast 🙂 I think there is a little bit of everything in scribophile [newbies like me and published authors] so that’s why I’m terrified because I could get ANY kind of critique and I don’t want that to have a super huge adverse effect on me. [omg how old am I??? four??] That’s funny you about being “too much or not enough” of something because I had to critique some work to get my karma points and every time I did I would say something like “this is my personal preference but maybe…” LOL!

  • Geybie's Book Blog

    Oh honey, I see that it’s quite terrifying. I’ve never done this, so I might not be very usefuf, but I think getting feedback is good. Just see it as a positive thing. I know it’s hard, though, so do it when you know you’re ready. 😘

    • Dragonfly @ Our Familiarium

      I gonna go and get me some courage! 🙂 It’s a dark urban fantasy trilogy plus a prequel with a little bit of a retelling and historical fiction. I’m trying to draft a post to talk more about it 🙂 but gotta be careful with those nasty creatures.. spoilers!

  • Emma

    I would post something, though maybe your idea of a short story is a way to go so you can ease yourself in. I have only done this once, for an online writing course, and I was really nervous but the feedback, whilst not all positive, was fair and no one was nasty. It was all respectful. I would imagine the same is here as you also pay for this service (I think?). It’s not just the big wide web where people can be mean just for the sake of it. Overall, my experience gave me confidence so I say do it. And good luck!

  • verushka

    Oh honey, putting your work out int he world to be critcized is the hardest thing. But you know what, the people who are worth listening too are the ones that will give you the good criticisms that are going to make your work better and that’s what it’s all about. I like what Julia said: You can’t lose (i get butterflies everytime I post on my blog and wonder if I am even writing anything sane and coherent lol)

  • kimbacaffeinate

    Not something I have done personally. How about beta readers. Or maybe you have already done that. I would put on your big girl panties and go for it. Go into thinking of it as a learning experience.

    • Dragonfly @ Our Familiarium

      I want to ask Beta readers for help too but for some reason I though it was a step later in the process when my first draft is finished. I love the “big girl panties” advice. That’s kinda what was in the back of my mind. “Oh come on! big girl panties on!” LOL

  • Tamara Narayan

    I think you should post something for critique. The suggestions might sting, but if you learn to write better, it will be worth it. When I belonged to a local writing critique group, there was one fellow who never minced his words. If my writing had a problem, he let me know. Sometimes I did feel embarrassed, but that was good because those words of wisdom and advice struck a chord that needed striking. All writers must learn how to accept and utilize constructive criticism. It’s how we improve.

    • Dragonfly @ Our Familiarium

      I was so hoping you visited and commented here since you are an author, I think I’m ok with getting all the criticism in the world as long as I don’t allow it to make me feel I really suck because I LOVE writing and I don’t want to stop. 🙂 Great advice! Thanks Tamara! I’ll be posting something next week hopefully.

  • Lola

    I never heard of that site before and while posting your work for critique sounds scary, but I would assume most people there are nice and wouldn’t just say your work is bad and say hurtful things just to be hurtful. I mean their point is to give constructive feedback right? So you can improve your writing and get even better. I think getting feedback form someone else who might not know you does sound handy. On the other hand I don’t really know anything about the site, so not sure what works best for that. I know some authors have critique partners with whom they swap books or chapter,s but that’s about the extend of my knowledge.
    La La in the Library also bring up a good point about how some people might find something good and others not. I think that’s always what you’ll have with writing and publishing it and getting reviews. You can never please everyone, but you take what advice you think will help you and ignore the rest. Like with books there are always people who hate a book and also people who love that same book. Good luck with your writing, no matter what you decide about the site!

  • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

    I feel your pain. Just remember that eventually you’re going to have to put your work out there and face the music. Constructive criticism is just that—remember that anyone on that site just wants to help. And brace yourself for some pain because no matter what people are going to have SOMETHING critical to say. 🙂

  • Kel

    I was a Writings Arts major in undergrad, and critiques quickly became a normal part of life. Honestly, the good ones will always stick you, but in a good way because you know it’s something that genuinely needs work and can be better.

    Part of it is practice and getting used to it, but a big part of it is mindset. If you go in thinking, “I want to make this story better” and view everything through that lens, you’ll stay focused on the process and the benefit. If you go in thinking about you and your feelings and how good or bad you are at this, you’re likely to take things personally and have a rougher time of it.

    My advice: polish it up as best you can, or at least read through so you have a mental list of things you think might need more work, but aren’t sure how to fix (so you have specific helpful things you’re hoping to find in the critiques). Then submit and stay focused on the process. Your best writing is rewriting, editing is necessary, etc. etc. It’s like a shot. Once you get past the initial pain and stop focusing on your pain, it does a body (of writing) good. Good luck!